Hay House Radio Episode Recap
- Episode Name: “Subconscious Patterns Affecting Your Health”
- Live Broadcast: June 20th, 2016 at 3:00 pm Pacific Time
Episode Replays: Mondays at 11:00 pm Pacific Time / 2:00 am Eastern Time and Sundays at 2:00 pm Pacific Time / 5:00 pm Eastern Time
Episode Summary Re-cap
We all have patterns that can sabotage our health, career and relationships.
How can you spot the pattern-traps you fall into and begin creating a life without limitations? We’ll reveal 5 patterns of self-sabotage and techniques to turn them into strengths.
Special Guest: Jean Haner. Hay House author, Jean Haner, has worked in the field of subtle energy for 30 years. A natural intuitive empath, she is able to physically feel and work with the energy of people and places. Highly sensitive as a child, she easily absorbed the energy of others, as well as being overly-affected by the energy held in environments. But through years of training and experience, Jean transformed her sensitivity into the power to work with energy on a very high level. Because of her personal experience with both the challenges and strengths of being an empath, she is well known as a compassionate and effective teacher, and leads retreats where you can learn how to clear the energy of people and places.
Jean has written 3 of my favorite books – two on Chinese face reading – called The Wisdom of Your Face and The Wisdom of Your Child’s face, that reveal insights our facial features give us about our inner nature. And Your Hidden Symmetry, a book that helps you discover who you are and your true calling in life. I love how Jean teaches compassionate and affirming ways for people to understand their true nature and to feel love for everyone in their lives, including that reflection in the mirror.
Jean teaches and consults internationally, providing fascinating and practical information that can be put to immediate use in your life.
Chinese Medicine Tells Us About Your Inner Design
acupuncture for the spiritChinese medicine tells us about our unique personal patterns and emotional behavior. Jean’s work is often called “acupuncture for the spirit” because she uses the thousands of years old Chinese medicine system to understand your inner spirit and your physical health.
In Chinese medicine, health and wellbeing is about creating balance. We all have strengths and weaknesses in our inner design. In fact, they are two sides of the same coin! When we are feeling balanced, we operate from our strengths, but if we are stressed and out of balance, we tend to operate from the detrimental side of our inner design. Sometimes, we don’t even realize it because it feels right while we’re coping with stress. However, over time, it can lead to negative mind-body-spirit symptoms.
Chinese medicine reminds us that the only thing wrong with you is that you think there’s something wrong with you! You were born perfect. It’s others expectations of you and beliefs you take on that take you away from your true nature. Instead, we can remember that any weakness can be balanced by drawing upon our natural strengths.
Your Inner Design & Self-Sabotage Patterns
Psychology Today defines self-sabotage as behavior which creates problems and interferes with long-standing goals. Strangely enough, self-sabotaging behaviors may seem helpful in the moment, but they ultimately undermine us, especially when we engage in them repeatedly.
On top of this, we aren’t always aware of our self-sabotaging behaviors because the consequences may not show up right away. Once we become aware of them, we find ourselves asking why we keep repeating these negative patterns or getting in our way. Why do we get so stuck on things that are not in our best interest? We’re going to reveal why and what to do about it!
Hard Working People Focused on Goals & Success,
But Carry Inner Tension
Some common patterns of self-sabotage and tips for you if you fall into this category are:
- Addictions – The positive side of additions is that they reveal an inner drive. People with addictions tend to work hard, hyper-focused on a goal, which often leads to success. The downside of this strength of focus and drive is an inner tension. In order to cope with this tension, one may try to calm it down by self-medicating. Unfortunately, the self-medicating is often done in a harmful way, for example, cutting, binge eating, drugs, alcohol abuse. Often, people with addictions tend to also have depression.In Chinese medicine, you can find balance by tapping into and expressing gratitude for your amazing power of discipline. Focus on creating a plan for your recovery. Assemble a team to support you (could be a doctor, naturopath, acupuncturist, yoga teacher, friends and family – whatever you feel will support you!). Create a schedule and structure for your recovery plan. Use your natural sense of discipline to create strategies that support you or to follow strategies suggested by your healing team.
- Workaholic Tendency – A person who overworks is wired very much like the person with addictions. See above for ideas. One thing to consider is that if you start to notice tension or pain in your neck and shoulders or some other physical symptom during the day, it may be time to get up, stretch and take a break or if it’s the end of the day, your body may be signaling that you’ve done enough and it’s time to stop!
- Overdoing Exercise – Consider creating a plan and sticking to it about the reducing the amount of exercise you’re doing and sticking to it. Remember, creating plans and discipline is one of your strengths, so draw upon it! Another option is to use the time you would have over-exercised and instead, meditate. Meditation allows you to get still and re-focus on taking care of yourself.
Extremely Giving People Who Crave Connection,
Struggle With Boundaries & Forget Self-Care
If you see these qualities in yourself, remember that there’s a positive strength: your generous, caring nature. You are often people’s best friend or rock. People come to you for support. You also have a natural ability to enjoy things in life, like food, people, and animals.
Here are some patterns of self-sabotage you may experience:
- Overeating – You may turn to food for a solution to your desire to feel full or a struggle with loneliness. Turn your attention to feeling fulfilled. Ask yourself what will fulfill you. Find a tribe of people who fulfill you. If you are eating, focus on your meal being a fulfilling experience. If you find yourself overeating and think you have a lack of willpower, it’s important to recognize that your blood sugar levels affect your willpower, along with physical and emotional hunger or cravings. Learn more about blood sugar and willpower and how to make a delicious blood sugar balancer to keep your blood sugar stable. This is very helpful if you find yourself over-eating, especially in the late afternoon and evening.
- Avoiding Exercise – You may have a tendency to feel stuck or disempowered. It’s possible that you don’t stand up for your needs. Or that you take care of others and forget your own self-care. If this is you, it’s important to recognize that your inner design craves connection and community. If you’re avoiding exercise, ask a friend or group of friends to start exercising with you. Or join a class. Exercising with others can shift things for you.
- Toxic Relationships – Because of your generous, caring nature, you may find yourself thinking about what you can do for others or constantly wanting to help or serve others. This attracts people to you, but sometimes, it will attract people who use or take advantage of you. This moves into self-sabotage if you put up with abuse or stay in an abusive relationship. Or if you give people the benefit of the doubt for too long. People with this inner design often struggle with boundaries and pay more attention to the care of others than themselves. If this is happening to you, start thinking of yourself as the best friend you’re trying to help. What would you do for this best friend if they were in the same situation? Begin to take steps based on this mindset.
- Procrastination From Over-Thinking – This pattern reveals you are an Olympic-quality thinker! You may find you get stuck in analysis-paralysis. Instead, recognize that you are stuck and see if you can focus on one thing at a time and get that done. Take everything step by step.
Highly Sensitive People Who Struggle With Not Feeling Good Enough, Perfectionism & Anxiety
You may be very sensitive and feel things physically that you pick up from the world around you. Since you are physically affected by energy, you may feel like you have “thin skin.” You may find you breathe shallowly and have challenges with your lungs, large intestine and skin. Examples are constipation, diarrhea, Crohn’s disease, IBS, eczema and psoriasis. It’s important for you to get plenty of alone-time to get back into your own energy.
Your strength is that you care very much about the quality of your work, have great self-control, are great at improving things, and have a gift of being able to see way out into the future and create a vision. You can draw upon these strengths to create a vision and heal self-sabotaging behaviors, such as:
- Procrastination – You may feel like you have to micro-analyze everything, getting it all figured out in advance so that you can make the one right choice each time. Remember, there is no one right choice. Focus on feeling as if your work is good enough! Remember, even if you did 50% less of what you are naturally inclined to do, it will still be stellar because that is part of how you are wired! Focus on trusting that you can just jump in and still get a great result with less effort.
- Anxiety & Perfectionism – You may feel like you constantly have to get things perfectly right. This, plus your highly sensitive nature, can create anxiety. Let go of the need to be perfect. Trust that you are perfect, whole and complete, just the way you are. It’s also important to keep your blood sugar levels stable. Many highly sensitive people experience a drop in blood sugar when the pick up energy from people or places. Learn the symptoms of blood sugar drops and how to make a delicious blood sugar balancer to keep your blood sugar stable. This is very helpful if you find yourself over-eating, especially in the late afternoon and evening.
- Under-eating – This could include anything from the spectrum of consciously under-eating to anorexia nervosa. The need to be perfect, for you, can translate into a focus on your body. This can lead to body image issues and choosing deprivation as a way to affect your body and cope. Remember, you have excellent powers of self-control and the ability to create a vision, both of which support you in your recovery goals. The real issues is to remember that you are already good enough.
Naturally Intuitive People Who Often Struggle With Fear & Trust Issues
Your strength is inner courage, power and willpower. You can draw upon these to shift your patterns of self-sabotage, which may include:
- Fear – fear is a frequent visitor if this is your inner design type. Interestingly, your type is also the most powerful! If you are experiencing joint issues, knee issues, arthritis, or challenges with your bones, teeth or feet, of issues with your kidneys, bladder or reproductive system, it’s a sign that you may be experiencing fear. It’s very important to focus on trust. Use Louise Hay’s affirmation: “Life loves you,” and practice thinking of the universe as a friendly helper.
- Not Speaking Your Truth – Some people with this inner design don’t speak up and share their feelings. Instead, they bury them deep inside. If this is happening to you, draw upon your inner courage and practice speaking up with people you trust.
Emotionally Sensitive People Who Are Empathic (or Psychic)
& Fears Rejection
Your strengths are your exuberance, joy, and thrill of being alive. You bring fun to everything and light up the path for others. You’re passionate and love change and new experiences! You can draw upon these strengths to overcome self-sabotaging patterns. You may also find yourself crying at the drop of a hat. Or perhaps you feel overly sensitive emotionally. You could be a psychic or empath.
- Insomnia or Heart Palpitations – Your highly sensitive nature may lead to feeling overly nervous and having a fear of rejection. If you find yourself in this pattern, it could lead to insomnia, heart palpitations or issues with your heart or small intestines. Focus on your loving, affectionate nature and connect with people, because this helps to nourish your soul. Use affirmations like: “I am loveable. People embrace me wherever I go.”
- Acting Rashly or Giving Up Too Quickly – You could find yourself feeling overexcited at times of stress and acting too rashly, then regretting it later. Or perhaps you find you don’t stick with things and give up too quickly. Focus on putting something down before acting (or giving up!) and moving on to a new topic or project for a little change. Then go back to it. This will support your desire for change and allow you to take your time with what matters.
Health Tip & Recipe of the Day: Hydration!We are entering into the summer season. In Chinese medicine, this is an active season where we can take advantage of nature’s energy of growth and expansion. It’s the perfect time to let go of old emotional wounds, like self-sabotage. It’s also a time when many of us are more active, physically. It’s much warmer in temperature as well and many of us spend time outdoors in the sun.
Our bodies are about 90% water, so it’s important to replenish by hydrating well! Here’s some tips to boost hydration and make your water even more enjoyable.
Use Additives to Balance Water and Help with Hydration – Here’s How
- 20 to 30 cumin seeds in a jug that holds 4 to 8 glasses of room temperature water: Whole cumin seeds help to balance the overly cooling nature of water. If you steep them in the water for 20 minutes or more, you’ll get a very subtle, lovely flavor and slight golden color to the water. You can leave them in the water the whole time and sip the water. Plus, you’ll get the benefits of cumin — balancing your blood sugar, aiding digestion, aiding bone density and cancer-protective properties.
- 10 seeds each of cumin, fennel and fenugreek in a jug filled with 4 to 8 cups room temperature water – this is another nice, subtle way to balance the cooling nature of water and bump up your body’s digestive fire. Fenugreek also helps with weight loss, eye health, blood sugar balance, bacterial and fungal infection (this is so helpful if you have candida, SIBO or UTIs), also helps prevent or relieve stones (kidney, gallstones) and lowers histamine. Fennel is great for digestion, heart health, memory and menstrual cramps.
- Bone Broth is very hydrating. Especially if you add a little sea salt. 1 cup bone broth, ¼ tsp. sea salt – energizing and good for the adrenals.
When it comes to how much water to drink, listen to your body. Carry water with you so that you remember to hydrate regularly throughout the day. Learn more tips for hydration.
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